There have been quite a few times when my ideas, which are slightly contemporary, have clashed with typical wedding traditions. It’s gotten to the point that when my mother talks about my wedding to her friends, she always adds in the qualifying statement “well, you know..they have a lot of different ideas since they live in San Francisco.*”
One of my “crazy, non-traditional, completely wacky” ideas was that we should consider short bridesmaid dresses. What?! I know- insane, right?
Although I thought short wedding dresses were the new normal, traditionally short dresses could be considered more “slightly informal and more common for summer weddings”. During my quest for the perfect bridesmaid dress I can’t tell you how many times I heard statements like:
- “Well, you could have short dresses if you really wanted them….but it is going to look silly. And how will people be able to tell the bridesmaids apart from the wedding guests?”
- “Short dresses? Your bridesmaids will freeze! It can get cold in September.”
- “Short dresses might show your bridesmaid’s knees- that is just not done. Maybe for a garden party wedding, but not at a church!!”
<sigh> With all this advice floating around, I honestly got to a point where I wasn’t even sure if I wanted short or long dresses. To help me clear my head and really hone in on what I envisioned for my wedding, I scoured the net for inspirational wedding party photos. Here are some of my favorite images:
Inspired? I was! My main takeaways from this research exercise were the following:
- In my opinion, long or short doesn’t seem to makes a big difference in terms of elegance or formality.
- Shiny fabrics (satin, taffeta) seem to give a really fancy flair that I love. Chiffon is great, but for me it does seem like more of a spring/summer fabric.
- Styling makes a HUGE difference! The main reason all these photos POP for me is because the styling is well done and the posing is natural, and yet artistic.
- I do like the more matchy-matchy looks better. I think mismatch is awesome, it’s just not my personal preference.
With all of this information, I was armed to go shopping..again! Did you find any particular inspiration which helped you decide bridesmaid dresses?
And, an even bigger question in my mind, did your wedding ideas conflict with any traditions that you were “supposed” to follow?
*Not that geography makes me any more “contemporary” than the Midwest, but it’s a great excuse for my craziness! lol